We’ll have an initial consultation and discuss what you are wanting and how I can support you. I’ll answer your questions and concerns, and if we seem like a good fit I’ll customize a plan to meet your needs. If you like the plan, we’ll schedule our first session.
All coaches and mentors will give a different answer to this question. The best answer that I can come up with is that in my approach I bring my full humanity to the work—my experiences and my vulnerability. In a very real way, we learn and grow together.
Therapists often feel that in order to stay professional they must hold themselves and their personal experience back and be dispassionate and objective. They may feel that the session isn’t about them, so their personal feelings and thoughts are not relevant, and they hide their vulnerability.
My view of a transformational coaching or mentoring session is that we are in it together. Not just while in the session, but in life! We are all in it together and we need each other. This to me is the beauty of the coaching/mentoring role—there is room for all my humanness and the deep truth of our interbeing.
As a foundation for real health and resilience, I will encourage you to spend time in nature with me and by yourself. Whether or not we do this will, of course, be totally up to you, but I have seen the benefits of ecotherapy and nature-based practice.
So often, what is most needed is deep, soul-level relaxation and self-acceptance. As your one true home and most basic support, the natural world is always there to hold you and our practice together will allow you to really feel this. Examples of nature-based experiential practices can be found here.
I have a Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology and Ecopsychology and training in Ecotherapy. You can learn more about ecopsychology and ecotherapy here.
When I say my work is transformational it’s because I’ve studied the science of personal transformation and I’m passionate about it. The transpersonal is everything that lies beyond the personal, beyond a narrow sense of “me” and “mine.” The direct experience of the transpersonal opens our hearts and minds and connects us to who/what we most truly are.
All of the foundations of Active Peace are transpersonal practices. As we do our work at becoming more conscious and self-aware our boundaries naturally soften. We naturally begin to live from a place of interconnection and interbeing and expand the sense of self.
We all have endless potential to continue our growth and development way beyond the limits of ego—real maturity knows no limits. I have a Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology and Ecopsychology and you can learn more about transpersonal psychology here.
Restorative justice is increasingly being integrated into mainstream criminal justice systems in North America and around the world. It is important to note, however, that its origins are indigenous, and what might best be called aboriginal community justice continues to be practiced in many native communities.
In the days before courts and prisons, indigenous peoples developed sophisticated models of justice grounded in relationship and interrelatedness. Rupert Ross, a Canadian judge who worked extensively in native communities, wrote a book that captures the spirit of aboriginal community justice. In Returning to the Teachings, Ross describes models of justice where the goal is teaching and healing, not punishment. In these community-based processes, all those affected are involved in getting at the root of the problem, which can include patterns of thinking and abuse that go back generations.
The goal of these justice systems is to reestablish harmony and repair relationships at the personal, community, and spiritual levels. It is understood that punishment cannot achieve that. The threat of punishment closes off honest communication just when it is most needed. Punishment will usually create more shame, and it’s often shame and low self-esteem that set the stage for the harm in the first place. In this view, it is believed that jail and other forms of intense punishment take already unbalanced people and move them further out of balance.
Outside of native communities, what we call restorative justice is not practiced in such a holistic way, but there are important similarities. These include the recognition that crime is a violation of people and interpersonal relationships, and it creates an obligation to repair the harm to the fullest extent possible. The goal is repairing the harm, not punishment, and offenders, victims, support people, law enforcement, and community representatives are all directly involved in the process.
As a restorative justice facilitator and program coordinator I saw how “RJ” put so many of the values I was longing for into practice. I also saw myself in the various “offenders” I was working with and wished I had such a process available to me when I was lost and harming myself and others. I feel lucky to have experienced first hand the many ways restorative justice contributes to the healing and transformation so needed throughout society.
Do you feel like you can live a truly full and empowered life without doing your part to create a more peaceful world? Do our youth have a future if we don’t create a more peaceful world?
I’m a believer in including the big picture context of our lives in my work. While we may have come to believe that there is some actual separation between inner and outer, self and society, the personal and the political, they are not separate.
The truth of our interrelatedness—our interbeing—and the critical moment we live in call on each of us to do our part to help create a more life-affirming society. Clearly, not everyone is ready to heed the call in an organic, free-flowing way—and that’s okay, that’s what’s true. I do believe, however, that doing our part is now a part of what it means to be a fully functioning adult.
Absolutely, we can meet over the phone or use video conferencing. It’s your process and the work is experiential, as long as you put in the effort it works perfectly fine to meet using technology.